A sweet friend just told me some good marriage advice. So good, that I sat there shaking my head and thought…I really needed to hear that. Wait…I really want to do that!Here’s the gist of what she said:
“When you get married, it’s like you’re suddenly holding this picture in your hand of all that you want and think your spouse should be. Over the years, you have a choice. You can either hold on to that picture really tight, and shred up your spouse with your expectations…or you can love and accept your spouse for who they really are, and shred up that picture.”
“When you get married, it’s like you’re suddenly holding this picture in your hand of all that you want and think your spouse should be. Over the years, you have a choice. You can either hold on to that picture really tight, and shred up your spouse with your expectations…or you can love and accept your spouse for who they really are, and shred up that picture.”
Lord, help me to build Brent up with my words and actions. I don’t want to shred him to pieces by choking him with all the expectations that a girl tends to come up with. I want to be a love-lavisher…like You are to me. But I really need Your help.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8a)
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